Times were good when we could enjoy our childhood and not have to think about paying bills, when the only concern was being home before the street lights turned on. Laying out clothes for the next day of school was the most tedious take. Adults were quick to say, “Enjoy your youth while you can,” and they were right. Remember in grade school when you decided your best friend based on whom you laughed with the most? Needless to say, now we have to go to work and cultivate relationships in so many of our lives and master the process of evaluating who gains access.
There’s a saying that goes, “You are the sum total of the five people that you hang around the most.” Who are the five people that have direct access to your ear and mind? What are their life goals? What is their spirit like? Pay no mind to Drake and his motto of no new friends. New lifelong friends will find their way into your adulthood, don’t be afraid to let them in.
Who knows, you may meet them in grad school, work, church, or professional conferences. Make yourself open to receive the love of new friends. Take the time to analyze the people who are already in your circle and get rid of dead weight and unhealthy relationships.
Courtney Simpson of lifestyle blog, XoNecole, puts it simply:
“Friends are meant to represent different sides of your personality, different realms of your life. Girlfriends, especially, should not only represent those, but also challenge those realms. They should listen when you say you’re hurt; they should not only celebrate the victories, but also cry and pick you up from your losses. “
So let’s consider it again, who are the five people in your inner most circle?